What are the drawbacks of birdnesting?

Birdnesting is a somewhat rare child custody arrangement in which children continue to live in the family home after divorce. The parents are given a custody schedule, and they move in and out of the house in accordance with this arrangement.

When people talk about this, they often address the positives. It can create stability for the children, for example. It can make it easier for them to adjust to divorce. They don’t have to spend as much time commuting between homes. But are there also some drawbacks that you should consider?

The financial side

To start with, think about the financial aspect of doing this. For one thing, you’ll need to have somewhere to live when your ex has custody and is living in the home with the children. This means that you and your former spouse both need to own or rent multiple properties.

Additionally, you’ll have to consider the financial realities of owning the children’s house. The two of you will have to discuss how to pay property taxes, mortgage payments, maintenance and upkeep costs, home insurance payments and much more.

Working together

Additionally, you and your ex have to be on very good terms for this to work, because you don’t actually get that much separation. You’ll still have to divide household duties and chores. You’ll probably interact and encounter each other frequently. You’ll need to share a living space, even if you’re doing it at different times.

For some couples, all of this is possible. For others, it’s far too difficult. It just depends on the situation you’re in, but make sure you consider your legal options carefully while working through your divorce.